Focus Friday: Let’s Focus on What’s Behind You

Have you ever looked across the room to see someone smiling and waving at you, but you had no idea who they were?

You tentatively raise your hand to wave, but then you realize they’re actually waving at someone behind you. Oops. You drop your hand and try to act cool, hoping they didn’t see you.

Once Gary and I went back to one of our previous churches for an anniversary celebration. There was a get-together at the community center. We mingled and reconnected. Then, I saw an old friend. She got this big huge smile on her face and looked at me like “There you are! I haven’t seen you for such a long time!” Her arms opened for a hug. I smiled and walked over, got my hug, and talked to her for a minute. Then I realized she was actually after a hug from a man standing a little behind me who had been ill and was finally feeling well enough to get out and see people. How embarrassing!

Things like that have happened to me often enough that I usually assume someone is not waving at me. I tend to look over my shoulder to see who they’re actually trying to greet.

That’s what happened last night when I went to Baker Book House in Grand Rapids, Michigan for an author event prior to the Breathe Christian Writers Conference I’m attending this weekend. After I parked, I noticed two women almost at the front doors. One of them raised her arm and pointed in my direction for a second. I squinted and tried to figure out if it was someone I knew. I didn’t think so. So, I glanced back over my shoulder to see who they may be greeting instead.

Imagine my shock when I saw a big old raccoon waddling across the parking lot. He really wasn’t very far from me at all! I walked faster and pulled out my camera to document the attack. Just kidding. He actually went behind some cars and I had to wait til he came back out of hiding before I could get the picture in this week’s graphic.

It got me thinking about what’s behind us and how people point it out.

Of course, when people see someone they know behind us, they’re going to wave at them and smile. We can’t fault them for that and be upset because we thought they were waving at us.

On the other hand, I was almost miffed because those two ladies just pointed vaguely at the raccoon behind me instead of yelling, “Run! There’s a rabid raccoon right behind you!” (He probably wasn’t rabid, but it was a little freaky to see one out at that time of day.)

I started thinking about how God sees us.

He’s always looking right at us, with arms wide open and a look on His face that says He’s thrilled to see us. We never have to worry that He’s actually looking at someone else.

If there is danger behind us, He will consistently point it out. Not a casual, quick gesture that leaves us wondering what He’s pointing at, but a clear, urgent message to warn us (whether we heed that warning or not).

We don’t have to be confused or afraid of what’s behind us, so I guess this week’s title should actually be “Let’s Not Focus on What’s Behind Us.”

Let’s focus on what’s before us, keeping the LORD always in our view. Let’s go where He wants us to go, do what He wants us to do, and trust Him in the midst of whatever happens to us. (Even rabid raccoon attacks.)

“Surely the righteous will never be shaken; they will be remembered forever. They will have no fear of bad news; their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the LORD.” (Psalm 112:6-7 NIV)

Do you ever get stressed out about what’s behind you? How can focusing on God help you to look ahead and trust Him instead?

Marvelous Monday: Let’s Focus on Doing It Scared

It’s Monday. Monday evening, to be exact.

I don’t know why I didn’t post anything before tonight.

I think I’d gotten into a pretty good pattern of posting on Fridays, so I almost forgot that I hadn’t updated my blog this weekend. But I remembered. And then I still put it off.

Lots of random thoughts contributed to my reluctance to post.

I don’t know what to focus on this week. Am I doing this right? What if some people want to read about mental health, but others just want spiritual applications for “normal” life? (As if any of us are truly “normal.”) I don’t want to whine about not writing my book again this week…people are surely getting sick of that. Blake graduated from Northwestern College on Saturday, maybe I should write about that milestone. Or maybe I should focus on Mother’s Day. I have a pretty great mom. She’d like that.

And as these thoughts all rolled around in my head, I realized that it all boiled down to fear.

I’m afraid of doing it wrong.

I’m afraid of disappointing someone.

I’m afraid I’ll annoy somebody.

I’m afraid I’ll be judged.

And then I remembered my number 1 Fear Archetype: People Pleaser (fear of what other people will think). My number 2 is Procrastinator (fear of making a mistake), and number 3 is Outcast (fear of rejection).

No wonder I put off writing my post this week!

My fear archetypes were confirmed (because I already knew I battled them) when I took the Fear Archetype Assessment at Do It Scared (DoItScared.com). You can take the assessment yourself and see what fear is holding you back the most.

If you know fear is a big problem for you, you may want to consider purchasing Ruth Soukup’s new book: Do It Scared. It comes out next Tuesday, May 21. I’m part way through the book (I got an advanced digital copy) and I can already tell it’s going to be helpful as I move forward in spite of my fears.

As Ruth says (in her book and in her awesome podcast by the same name):
Courage doesn’t mean we are never afraid, courage is simply daring to take action, despite our fear.

So, whether you get the book or not, I hope you’ll spend a little time today thinking about what might be holding you back from doing all of the things you say you want to do. I won’t bore you with my list. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you can probably list them for me. That’s my problem, and I need to get brave enough to start taking massive action toward accomplishing all of those goals.

What you need to do today is make your own list of things you’ve been saying you want to do for weeks, months, or even years. What fears are keeping you from doing them? What thoughts are bouncing around in your head, distracting you from stepping out in faith instead of staying stuck in fear?

It’s important to change how we’re thinking if we want to make any progress. I know a big part of that is making sure I’m thinking the way God tells me to think: about myself, about others, about relationships, about the world around me, and about a life that honors Him.

Don’t be scared, friends. You can do it! And if you still feel some fear, just go ahead and Do It Scared.

“I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears.” (Psalm 34:4 ESV)

How much do your fears hold you back? How can focusing on God help you to fight those fears and move forward in spite of them?

(This post contains an affiliate link for Ruth’s book…oh, and also, sorry for the picture in my graphic this week. It shocked me every time I looked over at the computer while I was working on it. I guess I nailed the “scared” part!)